We live in a fast world where everything needs to be done as efficiently as possible. Thanks to advancements in technology, we can now communicate faster through the use of text messaging and instant messaging. Although both forms of communication are effective and efficient, they are taking over our relationships in a negative way.
I have seen it in countless relationships, including some of my own. It has become so easy to just send someone a text message that many of us seem to have forgotten how to truly communicate. Texting does have its place and purpose. It is a great communication tool when you have a quick question or comment or when you know the recipient is busy and you do not want to forget something important you want to say to them.
However, texting and instant messaging are incredibly impersonal and cannot take the place of real communication. Texts are unable to convey inflection, tone, sarcasm, or facial expressions that accompany the message, and this can easily lead to confusion in a conversation and even a fight. You cannot truly understand what a person means unless you are having the conversation face to face.
Technology has become a crutch that is disabling our relationships. There are so many people that have their phone attached to their hand and many of these same people have trouble communicating in relationships. Being able to talk to your partner is, in my opinion, the most important aspect of a relationship. If you cannot talk to your partner, you should not be with that person. It is that simple.
I also think texting has made it harder for us to be open and honest in relationships. I have had heard too many people say, “I can’t tell you in person. I just can’t say it out loud. I’ll text it to you later.” If you cannot be open and honest-face-to-face with your partner, your relationship is doomed to fail.
When I think about the perfect relationship, I dream of a relationship with a guy who will tell me anything and everything about his life. I dream of a relationship with a guy who will listen to me when I want to talk to him about anything and everything. I think the ability to communicate well is an over-looked quality in our partners. I am far more impressed by a guy who can hold an amazing conversation than a guy who is good-looking.
Communication is by far the most important aspect of a relationship. It is the base of everything else in the relationship. I fear that we have become too dependent on impersonal communication methods and are losing our ability to effectively communicate with our partners in our relationships. I never want to live in a world where people are not capable of holding a good, old-fashioned conversation.