Assoc. Opinion Editor
Being a woman in today’s society is hard work. We are told that we can accomplish anything we want to, receive any college degree our heart desires, and land any career we want. As women, we are able to build our confidence and self-esteem through higher education and pursuing our dream occupations.
Unfortunately, there are still many individuals out there who believe women should be insecure with themselves. Matt Forney is one of these people. His article, “The Case Against Female Self-Esteem” on his blog MattForney.com shows nothing but hatred, contempt, and mockery towards self-respecting women.
His article opens with the statement, “I’m just gonna come out and say it: I love insecure women. Whenever a girl I’m talking to brags about how she’s ‘confident’ and ‘strong,’ I can feel my d*** deflating like a punctured tire.”
Riddled with misogynistic remarks, he writes about how women should really act: insecure, fragile, and vulnerable. He bashes women who work hard for college degrees and their careers.
He states, “If every girl was fired from her job tomorrow, elementary schools would have to shut down for a couple days, but otherwise life would go on as usual. If every man lost his job tomorrow, the country would collapse.”
Loving this guy yet? He continues to shame women who are secure with their body image and figure.
“Insecurity is the natural state of woman. How could it be anything else? Given their lack of physical strength, a woman on her own should be frightened as hell without men to protect her,” he states. According to Matt Forney, “Confidence doesn’t give men erections; vulnerability does.”
Should I continue with quotes from the acceptant and dazzling mind of Forney? I could, however, I don’t want my readers to get even more upset over a man who states that women should feel insecure in order to learn their place in society.
Matt, I need to tell you something as a woman: we need to be confident and self-respecting. We need to appreciate our bodies and figures for what they are, not mold ourselves after what men want. We need to expand our possibilities and opportunities through a college education.
Ultimately, we need to love ourselves as women and take pride in it.
Let me show you why women need to own their confidence in today’s society. According to the South Carolina Department of Mental Health, “20% of women suffering from anorexia will prematurely die from complications related to their eating disorder, especially suicide.” Why does this statistic matter? According to the Mayo Clinic, women are ten times more likely to have a negative body image than men, due to societal standards concerning a woman’s shape and figure.
Women and young girls should love their size and shape, and be confident in the person that they are.
Girls, appreciate and be grateful for the body that you have, and don’t let Matt Forney tell you otherwise. If you are one of the subscribers to the belief that confidence in body image is a petty subject, then try living a day where after every meal you run to the bathroom in order to throw it up, and then take two or three laxative pills to make sure you don’t gain any weight.
As to earning and pursuing a career, Matt, I can assure you that America will totally collapse if all women left their jobs for even a day. The US Department of Labor states that “women comprised 46.8 percent of the total U.S. labor force and are projected to account for 46.9 percent of the labor force in 2018.” Imagine an America where all women left their careers for even a few hours; the economy would collapse.
According to the Census Bureau, 685,000 men and 916,000 women graduated from college in 2009 (the latest year for which statistics have been published). That means 25 percent fewer men received college degrees than women. Matt, where are your insecure women now?
Ladies, know that confidence and self-respect is sexy. Respect from others begins with your own dignity and self-esteem. Love yourself for what you are, and don’t define yourself based on a Barbie doll figure.
Appreciate your hard work, drive, and talents that propel a college degree and career. Be grateful for the individual you have become. If Matt Forney has a problem with it, give him a swift kick in the nuts for me.